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I so feel you on this, Julie! The way I personally "moderate" is to take away the option. Way easier that way, and frees up so much energy, attention, and focus.

I cringe so hard at how many folks preach "everything in moderation" yet are oblivious to the fact that they are not in fact moderating; they are harming themselves while normalizing and justifying it.

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Nov 16, 2023Liked by Julie Fontes

If I could tell you all my favorite parts I would send you your entire essays back in full. 🥹❤️

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Nov 9, 2023Liked by Julie Fontes

Love this one I can completely relate sister your my sister 😆 hey everyone she's my sister

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Nov 8, 2023Liked by Julie Fontes

One time Rachel Ray said “everything in moderation, including moderation.” I think she was referring to cheese but I still quote it.

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It’s a good quote. I use my moderation sparingly.

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Julie - your brain & mine are kindred spirits when it comes to moderation. I love the humor you infuse in your writing. So glad I stumbled upon this (thank you, Dana for re-stacking!) I, too, would want cigarettes for breakfast if I ever lit up again and a package of Oreos would not survive 48 hours in my pantry. I am the shittiest of moderators which is why I had to give up alcohol. I loved it too much. And Stolen Focus stayed with me for a LONG while after reading it. I feel you, there. My 16 year old is so addicted to his phone. The power it has on him is disturbing- but if I look around. Isn’t that all of us? Thank you for writing about this, Julie!

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Thank you! I'm finding the more that I write what's on my mind, the more confirmation I get that I am in fact, a normal person. Haha.

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Nov 10, 2023Liked by Julie Fontes

I eat sweets, smoke cigarettes and stop by my friend’s houses in moderation. I binge drink and binge eat in moderation too. Come to think of it, I work out in moderation also. Your writings are my therapy Ju. Keep ‘em coming!

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You made me giggle much. I love your take on moderation. As if...

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beautiful 🫶

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First up: your writing is a delight to read and I thought I was subscribed, and I am not, but I will be in a snap! Substack swirls my brain. I cannot moderate alcohol. Just cannot even fathom it. I want to slug entire bottles, that's just it. I am pushing it with the sugar, as made painfully apparent this very minute because there's a bowl of Halloween candy next to me and let's just say: wow. I smoke a cigarette every Friday night. Sometimes one on Saturday, sometimes not for months. I don't understand.

I love your writing, Julie. You make me smile and nod. I like the embeds, your writing is so compelling and strong that even embeds of your other writing doesn't distract me! But now I realize I'm about a year late to this post so perhaps my thoughts on all this are irrelevant. Thank you for being among us. I'm so grateful.

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